How I met Douglas-Dean

Let’s rewind it back to December of 2019. I was on Tinder and had no luck so far. Between these men straight up lyin’ and being flat out weird, I was over the dating game and was actually two seconds from deactivating my damn account. I had all of these expectations while being single. I just KNEW I was going to be going on dates, living my best life-exploring Kansas City and I couldn’t have been more wrong. Yes, I was going out on dates, but they were weird. And awkward. I couldn’t stand more than 1 hour with them, and then my anxiety kicked in and ruined it for both of us. I really had to stand back and reevaluate this tinder life. Like I was really getting into a random stranger’s car past 8 p.m. and drive around a city I didn’t even know? Lmao, it had to be crack.

ANYWHO, this boy-oh I'm sorry man named Jeffery hit my line and honestly right off the dome I was hesitant. This man had his prom pictures on his profile yall, PROM. And for those that didn’t know Jeff (That’s Jeffery to you, lmao I'm just playin) is two years ahead of me- so I could tell that the pictures was taken some time ago and I didn’t even see this man in person yet.

Our first messages consisted of him asking what I was doing, and I replied that I was binge watching the show called ‘A Different World’. If you know me, then you know that this is my favorite show hands down!! Ok back to business, so after my reply he said something slick and basically said ‘Do you wanna hang out and watch it together?’ Now remember, I already told yall that I was hesitant about him judging from those prom pics, not to mention I could’ve SWORNNNN that I said ‘Must be 6ft or above’ in my bio and I knew this man was not no 6ft- I was scarred from a previous boy. But that’ll be another post guys.

So I was giving him the run around and Jeff meant business yall, he was like yeah no lets do it TOMMORROW. I was like zaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn ok den!

So the next day, I purposely texted back late, if not at all. We finally got around to setting up a real date and agreed on a day and time. He picked me up from my dorm, I wasn’t ready yet so I left him in the living room of my dorm suite, and when I was ready we hit the town. Buffalo Wild Wings was first, I mainly kept diverting the conversation to the basketball games that was on. I was that nervous. He then notified me that when he eats spicy things, he tends to sweat and that became our main joke for the night. When he said that I thought he mean't hot buffalo wings, shit I would've even said mild but this man was eating BBQ boneless wings and was sweating like we were in a sauna.

Moving along, we finished our food and headed to the AMC on Ward Parkway to see 'Bad Boys 3'. He was so excited to watch the movie, especially since it had just came out but I had already watched it with my mom and sister about a week before unknowingly to him. I didn’t want to ruin his excitement so I decided to just watch it again.

Long story short I ended up falling asleep halfway through the movie, what can I say- I tried. When the movie was over we got on the road to head back to my dorm. One thing I remember vivdly was it being foggy. Like very, very,very foggy. And I remember this because I have real bad car anxiety so yall know I was showing my whole behind. Let’s just say I'm glad it was around 1 a.m. so literally no one was on the road.

We finally made it back to the dorm, and I was tired as hell so I know he had to be just as tired. He asked me while we were still in the car could he just spend the night and leave in the morning, confirming that he was tired as hell too. I agreed, I mean it wasn’t that much of a big deal and we just went to sleep.

Fast forward to a few hours ahead, when the sun had arose he had woken me up to say he was heading home. And I don’t know what happened in that moment yall, but it was something about his morning voice that just made me do a double take. That’s when I knew that that was my man yall, and I was going to stick beside him.

Fast forward to a year and a half later, me and Jeff are still going out and are in a relationship. When I look back to our first date, I cherish the memory fondly. Although it was your typical dinner and a movie, it symbolizes our favorite thing to do together; just grabbing some food and heading home for a movie night. I know this post is short y'all, but I wanted to give you the backstory because I will be writing another post soon about my relationship with Jeff.

Love y'all!

KC